aloha!
so in light of recent events, (in my life not everywhere) i feel like writing about what feminism is and the definition of a feminist because most peeps are kinda confused bout that shizz.
a feminist is NOT someone who hates men. we don't think all women are greater than all men. we just know that we are ALL equal, and we want those privileges which are rightfully ours.
what it means to be a feminist:
it means standing up for women everywhere, and here i feel like quoting the dauntless manifesto:
so in light of recent events, (in my life not everywhere) i feel like writing about what feminism is and the definition of a feminist because most peeps are kinda confused bout that shizz.
a feminist is NOT someone who hates men. we don't think all women are greater than all men. we just know that we are ALL equal, and we want those privileges which are rightfully ours.
what it means to be a feminist:
it means standing up for women everywhere, and here i feel like quoting the dauntless manifesto:
that is it exactly.
it means DEMANDING equal rights for men and women. this can be anything, even the right to have bad handwriting. obviously, my handwriting is absolutely disgusting (though completely legible) and my history teacher once said to me, while correcting one of my assignments, "this is so messy.*points at random boy* even his handwriting is better than yours. being a girl you're still so messy?" needless to say i wanted to pulverize her, but i wasn't too keen on getting expelled just yet. so i stood there, said "being a girl has nothing to do with it," and walked away. honestly, i've had enough of double standards. and being judged for being a girl before anything else.
moving on, it means beating the crap out anyone who says "boys will be boys". a member of parliament basically used that to excuse rapes committed by minors. "how are they supposed to help it if they are tempted? everyone makes mistakes. girls shouldn't tempt boys"
oh my, im so sorry i murdered you, i was just too tempted by the expression of cunning idiocy on your face. the thing everybody needs to understand is that it is NEVER the girls fault if she gets raped. she can wear whatever she likes because it's HER body and HER life and you have no right to think that her dressing well means she WANTS you to get tempted. its YOUR fault if you cant control your freaking mind, not hers.
does that illustrate my point?
just because a girl wants to wear nice clothes and feel good about herself, that DOES NOT mean she's trying to get your attention and it especially doesn't mean she's 'asking for it.'
what else does feminism mean?
it DOESN'T MEAN hating girls who revel in their beauty. it doesn't mean hating someone who shaves their legs and wears nice clothes, because wanting to feel pretty is a part of being HUMAN and there isn't really anything wrong with that, but SERIOUS RESPECT if you dont shave your legs and wear what you like. so she's beautiful, and she knows it. you shouldn't go up to her and tell her that she's a disgrace to feminism and she needs a life. maybe you should tell her that she is smart, independent and strong, and you would be her friend even if she wasn't beautiful. you're proud of being smart aren't you? and you work hard for it. well maybe she's proud of herself for being beautiful, and she works hard for it too. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH WANTING TO BE PRETTY. but next time you're in a makeup store, ask anyone there if they think boys are ugly without makeup. when they say no, just tell them that you think they're pretty without makeup too and that their boyfriends should care more about what they say and do than if their skin is perfectly smooth.
it means punching anyone who calls another girl a slut. for example:
*girl in booty shorts walks into room*
another girl: god what a slut
me: *punch*
me: ohmygod my hand OW
look, people can wear whatever the hell they want. when you call her a slut, you sound exactly like all those MPs who justify rape. she was showing off her nice bod = she's a slut = she wanted to get raped = it isn't the guys fault = degradation of society everywhere. and think about it, if a guy went around serial dating, no one would ever criticise that, but i've lost count of the number of times Taylor Swift has been called a slut. firstly, her personal life is none of our business, and also, im TWO HUNDRED PERCENT SURE HARRY STYLES HAS DATED MORE PEOPLE AND THAT'S COMPLETELY OKAY SOMEHOW. its sickening, because guys never call other guys sluts if they sleep around, but girls will judge another girl like THAT.
and that, i think is the root cause of the problem, that girls dont support other girls. think about, when is the last time you called some girl a slut? probably yesterday. and when do you think one of your guy friends last called another guy a slut for flirting with someone. he probably never would. he'd just congratulate his brawh for 'getting some'. so STICK UP FOR EACH OTHER PEOPLE! even if you don't like the chick, at least dont let some guy completely disregard her intelligence completely when he simply labels her as 'hot'. STOP OBJECTIFYING GIRL'S BODIES. we are smart, funny, complicated and opinionated. so much more than just 'hot' or 'pretty'. we're people too.
and the worst part is that some girls are so used to getting labeled as simply bodies to mess around with and throw away, they start thinking like that too. but its time we put a stop to it. we have to spread the message that girls can do anything, be anyone. they are strong too. and i will personally beat the shit out of anyone who refuses to acknowledge my existence because i'm a girl, or my intelligence because im 'pretty'. so promise me that next time you see a girl who regards herself as nothing more than a pretty face, you'll tell her how smart she is. or how funny, or creative, or strong, or talented, or confident, or brave. and if you're a guy, you can let her know how hot you think she is, but make sure she knows that she is SO. MUCH. MORE.
personally i know a lot of girls like that, and i think they should be told to strive for whatever they want, and know that they deserve the best.
it means not telling little girls to wait for their prince to come. you don't need no prince! it means buying blue, green, yellow, red, orange, purple AND pink things for little girls. it means making sure they know that barbie is super pretty, but there's so much more to life like books and play-doh and painting. it means teaching them that girls are smart too. and while every little girl you know might love playing with kitchen sets, you should get them cool stuff too, like GoldieBlox!!
how awesome is that!!
and lastly, it means kicking your gym teacher's ass when he tells the girls to 'sit down' while he makes the guys do push ups. or better yet, get down on the ground right there and do them push ups (well, figuratively, because i cant actually do a push up but i can damn well represent all those badass women who can do a bloody good push up.)
you don't need a guy, okay? you can get your own house, your own car, your own job. you can be a boss. you can be a star. you can be whoever you want to be! dream big. and if you need someone, there are a ton of girls (and guys) out there to help you, but remember that you're amazing on your own.
i hope you understood that feminists are NOT 'man haters' and hopefully that wasn't too serious. thank you so much if you read to the very end! i love you guys, really.
go break hearts, my lovelies <3 xoxo
P.S. TFIOS Premiere!!!! aaaaahhhhhh!!!!!!!!!! i think ill die if they dont release it in india. also, they totally should because it would make a hell lot of money here.
i love them SO FREAKING MUCH i want to die
